Technically a Good Conscience... Or... a Bad One?

Teenagers are often told to "grab life by the horns" but still conduct themselves as respectable and rule-abiding adults. It's been said that there's a balance between the two, but, I mean, either you drink underaged as a wild teen ... or you don't as a law-abiding citizen; either you steal a bottle of coke from Publix as a wild teen... or you don't as a law-abiding citizen; either you go to juvenile detention for fighting as a wild teen... or you don't as a law-abiding citizen. At this point I'm confused. I seldom do anything wrong on purpose, heeding the precepts of a more respectable outlook. I blame my conscience. I used to cry every time I did something wrong. I'd forget my lunch money in elementary school. The lunch lady had an accent. So every time I forgot my money, what sounded like "you're going to go to jail" was actually "you're going to get peanut butter and jelly." So I cried every time I forgot money. Even after I figured out that I wasn't going to jail, I still cried - it's the principle of the matter (although crying often made the lunch lady sympathize and give me free food). I might forget my homework once in a blue moon and cry (this happened up until eighth grade when I realized I'd need to mature a bit) - knowing I would get a bad grade and that it was my fault for not putting my homework in my backpack (although I do still get a bad feeling when I forget my homework, I don't cry about it). I can't disobey my parents, and if I do, I feel bad about and THEY MAKE ME FEEL BAD ABOUT IT always and forever. 

A subject such as dating, something that's prohibited in my family until 18, is an event I believe I'm ready for now, however, despite encouragement from peers to date secretively, I simply cannot do it... because of that conscience of mine. My point is, I can't figure out if I'm fully taking advantage of my teenage years. The dating is insignificant, it's just an example - I can wait for that as much as I hate it. But I feel as though my conscience is holding me back from my full potential, the holistic expression of self. I can't bear the thought of upsetting someone, which actually often backfires because of this...conscience. 

So, what's with this conscience of mine...is it technically a good conscience...or a bad one? Where does one say..."let it go?"